When a child is diagnosed with a serious illness, the entire family is affected — including siblings.
Brothers and sisters often love and care deeply for their sibling, but they may also experience complicated emotions that are hard to talk about.
Supporting siblings emotionally is an important part of helping families navigate medical challenges together.
The Unique Experience of Siblings
Siblings of medically complex children may experience things their peers do not fully understand.
They might:
- Worry about their sibling’s health
- Feel scared during medical crises
- Miss time with parents who are focused on caregiving
- Take on additional responsibilities at home
- Feel pressure to “be strong” for their family
These experiences can lead to a mix of emotions — love, worry, jealousy, guilt, sadness, or even anger.
All of these feelings are completely normal.
Why Siblings Sometimes Stay Quiet
Many siblings try to protect their parents by keeping their feelings to themselves.
They may think:
- “My parents already have enough to worry about.”
- “My problems aren’t as important.”
- “I shouldn’t complain.”
Over time, however, unspoken emotions can build up and lead to anxiety, behavioral challenges, or withdrawal.
Having a safe place to talk can make a big difference.
How Therapy Can Help Siblings
Therapy gives siblings a space where their experiences are recognized and valued.
In counseling, siblings can:
- Talk openly about their feelings
- Ask questions about their sibling’s illness
- Learn coping skills for stress and worry
- Connect with others who understand similar experiences
At Mitchell’s House, our therapists use creative activities, games, and conversation to help children express feelings that might otherwise stay hidden, creating a safe space and dedicated time for siblings to process their emotions and experiences.
Helping Siblings Feel Seen
One of the most powerful things a sibling can hear is: “Your experience matters, too.”
When siblings feel supported and understood, they are often better able to cope with the challenges their family is facing.
And strengthening sibling support helps strengthen the entire family system.
If you’d like to learn more about the counseling services available through Mitchell’s House, we invite you to submit an application for counseling services here or reach out to our team at info@mitchellshouse.org.